Since Swing Clubs Are A Members Only Club, members that
visit again and again know each other. This also means that if you
insult or offend one couple, word will spread very quickly to the
other members. By the same token if you are pleasant to a couple and
they enjoy their sexual encounters with you, they will be eager to
introduce you to other couples and ladies so that they can enjoy your
talents. Just like close friends love to recommend a good movie or a
good restaurant to their friends... Swingers
like to recommend people with special sexual talents to their friends!
So In The Interest Of Helping YOU Get Off On The Right Foot,
and not make any mistakes, please read and understand this Singles
Guide To Successful Swinging. If you donít read this, then if you
screw up and get ignored, you only have yourself to blame.
You Will Have A Great Time At Our Parties If you leave
your "Macho attitude" at the door. Be yourself, be real and
socialize, ask a lady to dance and have fun. Maybe even ask her
husband for permission to ask his wife to dance. Talk to her husband
and be friends with him too, remember... If he doesnít
like you then youíre not getting anywhere with her. Take your time
and donít be in a hurry. If you do that youíll have a much better
time than the guy that puts on a towel and starts cruising as soon as
he walks in the door with a macho horn-dog attitude.
One Important Thing To Understand About Couples (and
women) who are in this lifestyle, is that every couple plays for a
reason, their own personal enjoyment, not yours. Some are interested
only in other couples, some only in women, some do nothing, they just
like the atmosphere, and some are interested in playing with single
men, (this is where you come in).
Also, Single Doesn't Necessarily Mean You Aren't Married,
it only means that you play as a single. Many couples are open and
seeking a second or even third man to join them. The key is, which
single men they choose, and from your viewpoint, how do you get
to be that guy!
First Of All, Understand The Lifestyle. Read the couples
section of this website to understand their viewpoint better. Remember
that for the most part, everyone you meet at a swing club is there for
the same reason you are. What youíll find is that swingers arenít
cheating on their spouse, theyíre open about what they do, and what
they want to do. Donít come to our parties to fall in love, or
think youíre going to sweep a lady off her feet, and take her away
from her husband, that will get you nowhere! Come to have a good time
and make some new friends.
All Couples Have A Set Of Rules By Which They Play, and
vary little from those rules. Donít try to change them; it wonít
work and you will appear pushy.
Be A Gentleman And A Classy Guy. Just because a woman
likes sex, doesnít mean she appreciates vulgar language or
suggestive remarks. Good manners and social skills are more important
here than anywhere else.
Dress Nice Like You're Going On A Date. Because you ARE
going on a date! When you know you will be having an intimate
encounter with your mate, you take extra special care in your daily
hygiene routine, right? Well multiply that ten times for this
lifestyle. On a first date you spend extra time brushing &
flossing your teeth, showering, shaving, doing your hair and putting
on your best cologne. Treat this like a first date, get extra cleaned
up and dress to impress. Leave your torn or baggy jeans or shorts and
T-shirt, tank top and baseball cap at home, youíre not in high
school any more so donít dress like it.
The Strictly Enforced Dress Code For Friday & Saturday Is:
No Printed T-Shirts
No Tank Tops.
No Torn or baggy excessively worn jeans.
No baseball hats.
Dress To Impress... Because
isnít that what you do when you go on a date? Dress like youíre
going to an upscale nightclub because you are.
Donít Assume That Just Because You Talk Or Dance with
someone that they want to have sex with you. And, donít get too
aggressive on the dance floor or at the bar, etc. unless you get the
clear message that itís OK. If you get that message, go with it,
just donít go overboard. You can even ask her, "Is this
Leave The Creative Pickup Lines At Home. The ladies at
our parties are adults and are not into head-games. They have heard
every line in the book and they donít work. The best opening words
in the world that work 99% of the time at our parties are, "Hello,
this is my first time here and I noticed you and wanted to introduce
myself to you, My name is Joe".
Introduce Yourself To Both The Husband And His Wife.
Never wait until he goes to get a drink and sneak up to meet her
without him present, or wait to ambush her as she heads to the ladies
Also, Don't Pretend You Don't Understand what kind of
club youíre in or what goes on here. As crazy as this sounds many
guys say, "really? A swingers club? I didnít know that, I just
thought Iíd stop in and pay $100 cover charge to a club in this
unfamiliar neighborhood". If you say that, you look like a
complete idiot. Nobody stumbles into a swing club and we all know why
If You Want A 100% Sure Thing then go to a whorehouse or
call an escort. Our Internet Parties are a social club and the ladies here are
upscale wives and girlfriends and above all, they are ladies, not
escorts. Treat them like ladies.
Donít Insult A Memberís Intelligence with the famous
lie, "my wife wanted me to come here first by myself to check it
out, so Iíll come back with her the next time and we can all play
together after you and I play now". No wife in the world that is
just beginning to explore this lifestyle, would send her husband to a
swing club without her.
Donít Talk About Your Wife Or Girlfriend, and how
great she is or how beautiful she is - if she was, you wouldnít be
here alone and sheíd be with you. - and donít tell a lady how hot
that woman across the room is. If thatís what you think, tell it to
the lady across the room.
Donít Ignore The Husband. No matter how much his wife
likes you, if the husband doesnít like you, youíre not getting
anywhere with her. This doesnít mean you need to spend all night
talking with him, but introduce yourself and be cordial and play it by
Donít Be Shy & Withdrawn Or Be A Wallflower. If you
see a lady youíre interested in, be observant. If she dances with
guys other than her husband, or if she spends time talking to single
men, maybe sheíd enjoy talking or dancing with you as well. Donít
be afraid to approach her. Even in swing clubs, women generally
donít approach men. Just because a lady is with her husband,
doesnít mean sheís not available or is unapproachable - remember
this is a swing club. Donít be afraid, just approach politely and
Never walk Into Our Party And Put On A Towel As Your First
If you do, your chances of getting lucky go to zero. When
youíre in a towel and the lady or couple youíre approaching is
dressed, you got no chance.
Our Parties Are A Social Club, Not A Drinking Club. Drink in
moderation. You will find that alcohol and erections donít go very
well together and if you have too much alcohol, not only will you
become stupid and belligerent but you wonít be able to get an
erection to save your life, and no one likes to be around a flaccid
Donít Sneak Over Into The "Couples Only" Room pretending to be with a couple. If they wanted to be
approached by single men, then they would be on the "Single
Side" of the room. And if they wanted you to join then in the
"Couples Only" room, then they would invite you. Our
Party members have very good memories and a very tight network and donít
soon forget intrusive behavior.
If A Couple Is Engaged In A Threesome Or Foursome
while NOT in the "Couples Only" section, maybe they only
like to be watched by single guys, but not touched. So donít try to sneak your hand in there to "grab a piece"
thinking that she will be unaware of whoís hand it is. Although she
might not be aware, her husband or the other involved partners will be very
aware and will have you quickly removed from the club. Ask
before touching anyone.
If Someone Tells You "NO" Thatís All There Is To It.
Itís not open for discussion. Donít ask them, "why not?"
Or "are you sure, Iím the greatest lover in the world?"
They are busy playing and are not interested in a debate of in you joining them no
matter how great of a lover you might be.
Do Not Come To Our Parties With A Group Of Your Buddies.
Yes itís true that many ladies enjoy multiple male partners and many
enjoy a "gang-bang" but they donít need you to provide the
"gang". If you only feel comfortable coming to our parties with a group of your friends, then go back to high school because
our parties are for grown-ups. This is not a double date, or an activity
for you to bring your buddies with you. Experience has shown that guys
coming with their buddies tend to behave differently and more
aggressively trying to show off for their friends. More
than two single men arriving together will not be admitted.
All In All, Itís Real Simple; Be A Gentleman, Be Classy,
be friendly, and treat people well. Everyone has a much better evening
if the ladies have a fun time, and if they do, then youíve got a
great chance at having a really fun time with them.
5) If You're Unsure about proper procedures or
whatís allowed, Ask.
6) Most People In The Club Have A Partner, include them
in your conversation when appropriate.
7) Mind Your Manners. Be on your very best behavior.
8) Pay Attention To Nonverbal Signals, both positive
& negative. Body language speaks much louder than actual words.
9) When Talking To Other People In The Club that you are
interested in, make sure you understand their personal rules and
boundaries. Every one is different. And NEVER try to persuade
them to change their rules for your benefit.
10) Admission To The Club DOES NOT Guarantee that you
will have sex, but only that you will be admitted to the club. No one
owes you anything and you shouldnít expect anything from anyone.
11) If You Have A Problem With Someone At The Club,
PLEASE tell the management and let them handle it, not you. Never
create or contribute to a "scene".
12) If Youíre New And Have Additional Questions about
the club or the lifestyle, ask to speak to one of the regular member
couples. They will be happy to answer any questions you might have. It's
also a great way to start a conversation!
13) Class & Style Will Get You Much Further Than Pushiness,
arrogance or macho, agressive, crass behavior.
14) Be Aware Of How Much You Drink. No one is attracted
to, or impressed with, or wants to be around a drunk. This is a
social club, NOT a drinking club.
15) Never Put On A Towel Before 11:00, unless a couple
invites you do do so. Wait for couple
youíre interested in, puts their towels on first. If you put on a
towel and approach a couple or lady that is fully dressed, you might
as well leave your testicles in your car because you won't need them
16) Never Go In the "Couples Only" playroom without being with a lady or a couple, & never claim,
"I didn't know this was the couples only side", because
ladies don't like stupid guys either.
17) No Male Nudity Is Allowed In The Dining Room or
common social areas. You must at least be wearing a towel.
18) Always Dispose Of Used Condoms In The Trash. Yes
this mean that when you are through with it you must carry it with you
to a trash can. Never leave it where you took it off or you will be
invited to leave and not come back. (and you might end up wearing its
contents on your head.)
If You Follow These Guidelines, you
should have a great time and
make lots of new sexy friends. And if you REALLY want to
be a "Classy Guy" and have the greatest success meeting
couples and having fun, then you will click this link titled "What
To Expect", to see the section for couples and singles
that have never been to a swing club. You should also click our "Questions
& Answers" section. This additional information
will help you better understand single ladies and couples and what
they are thinking.